FINDing YOUrself.

“ I’ve been waiting
Half my life, Just to be the one to take you home tonight,
We can make it, If we try, But I wanna wait until the time is right

Tell me what’s on your mind, I can’t get you off mine
Are we over or meant to be, Don’t need to know right now
Timing will work it out ,Can’t let you make those mistakes with me

So don’t let someone find you until you find yourself”

Quoted from the song Find Yourself by Great Good Fine Ok.

It is a mystery that every-time i read the lyrics to this song is keeps reminding me to find myself. Hilarious isn’t it?! How we just presume that we haven’t found the perfect version of ourselves in our daily lives or in whatever we do. Its like we are a huge forest and each of us a a lonely firefly just changing our colours and flying to a unknown destination. Apparently that is the world we live.

For clarity purposes lets dig in and find out the go arounds of “how to find yourself” as i have heard this one too many times from my colleagues and acquaintances that i have met that “that person has not found him/herself in life.’’

So how does a person find him/herself in this century. I am no expert in this neither am I you daily psychologist, I am just that who see the world in a perspective of a child. So here is how you find yourself in my perspective.

We Are All Lost.

It is okay to be lost.

Lets’ admit this first, we are all lost in life at one point or another. Everyone has once woken up in an early morning wondering what am I doing? What the hell is going on with my life? Wait, is this what I wanted? How did I get to where I am? These are question we once in a life time or more than once as ourselves due to the encounters we face in our daily life. If you have asked yourself this you are saved, there is hope for you, trust me i know the feeling. We get lost lost everyday in work, in love, in basically the blueprints we drew for our lives.

The issue behind is not getting lost, it knowing and admitting that we are lost. It won’t kill you a bit, but what you do after that is the most important thing. You can never find yourself if you never got lost and that is why as a child you have a lot of options on who you want to be but as time goes by we forget the options and stick to what life has set forth for us. We unknowingly get lost in our mists.

No matter how lost you are finding yourself is not something that just happens, it is not something that just erupts in life.

Finding yourself is created by ones self and it is never a millisecond late to find yourself.

Stick To The Blueprint.

The google definition which i presume is also the english dictionary of the word blueprint is “a design plan or other technical drawing.”

Literary, we all have a blueprint of our lives whether it is in words or just a thought a way. We have a plan on how we want our lives to be like in our future or even the current state. The thing about plans is that they change due to different circumstances but this does not mean that you trash the plan. That is usually where things go wrong and you lose yourself.

Whatever happens stick to your blueprint accomplish the task at hand the reassess the blueprint for changes and growth.

Always be consistent to the plan you have set-forth, cause paper work and reality are two titans at war that when mastered, the treasure ahead will shine so bright.

Get a checkpoint.

You remember when we young and we played video games, each game had a level that once you died you just started from the level or checkpoint that you were last at.

Same applies to finding yourself. You have to a referral to see the where you are heading in that blueprint you set so as you can measure you glory. It is much easier to find yourself if you know where you go lost and that is the magic of a check point.

This also applies in referring to where you are heading because checkpoint are an amazing beacon to push you to your goals. It is simple the object in everything in life is to achieve a certain level of self enclosure and get a win. For instance, we go to gym to get fit and have those bodies that are amazing, but in order to get all that you have to work out, 10, 20, 30, 40 up to 100 push ups, bench presses or any of the exercises. That number of workout routines you do combined with the time you do it will create a milestone for you everyday towards achieving your perfect shape.

Work is the result when a force acts on an object and moves it by some distance. Thats just physics now in real life on finding more of yourself, you have exert so force into it with the right amount of time and consistency towards the objective you want.

If you want to find yourself you got to put work for yourself. Start clocking in to that blueprint.

Accept Your Depth.

The one thing that leads to you to losing yourself is not accepting the depth of your pool. Here is something you ought know, as a child when, you started swimming, you never started in deep waters, some of us even started in bath tubs then as time went by we levelled up.

We usually want to dive in the deep waters and forget we were supposed to swim in the swallows first. Levelling up is easy once you passed through the proper path as in you will level up with ambition, experience and knowledge to do what is supposed to be done.

When its time level up with grace, experience and excellence but at the moment go to war for that grace, experience and excellence.

“One must know oneself. If this does not serve to discover truth, it at least serves as a rule of life, and there is nothing better.”